Some New Jersey couples struggle with the decision to get a divorce. This might be a particularly difficult decision if they have children. However, in some cases, getting a divorce might be the best solution to a marriage that it is in trouble.
One situation in which divorce may be the right solution is if there is abuse. Another is if one person is tempted to cheat and cannot get rid of the urge or has already cheated. Couples may attempt counseling to repair their relationship. They might even see several different counselors. However, in some cases, it may be the counseling that makes them realize that they should separate.
Some couples may find they have simply grown apart. A strong foundation of friendship plus shared dreams are important in sustaining a relationship. If the couple no longer has those things, they may have irreconcilable differences. It may no longer be possible for the couple to be happy together. A relationship in which the couple is mired in anger and misery cannot be called a success even if it does not end. It may be better for the couple to move toward divorce in an atmosphere of mutual respect with the understanding that their relationship has only changed rather than failed.
This is the ideal situation for couples to move into a divorce. They may then be able to negotiate a fair division of property and an effective child custody arrangement that suits all parties. However, even if there is a lot of conflict between the two people at the end of the marriage, they may still be able to reach an agreement using an alternative dispute resolution method such as mediation.
